So you’ve separated with her but it looks like she/he is not ready to accept the handwriting on the wall and instead, decides to continue talking to your mom.
When you break up with your ex the tendency that there will be an initiation of an automatic ‘No Contact’ rule is high but what happens when they maintain communication with your parents?
There could be a reason your ex is still in contact with your mom or dad. All you have to do is to find out the reason before taking any action.
Here, I’ll outline and also discuss some of the reasons your ex has maintained communication with your mom or dad.
Some Reasons Your Ex Is Still Contacting Your Mom During No Contact
- She has unfinished business with your mom.
- She regrets leaving.
- Has a very close relationship with your mom.
- She wants to get back.
1. She Has Unfinished Business With Your Mom:
This is always possible. If she runs a business that your mother patronizes or vice versa, you can’t stop the duo from doing business simply because the both of you are separated.
Business, they say, shouldn’t be mixed with pleasure. If she does a business where your mother is one of her clients or customers, you can’t stop her from checking in with her customers when the need arises.
2. She Regrets Leaving
When your partner leaves and still keeps in touch with your mom or any member of the family, the reason could be a result of his or her regret for leaving in the first place.
The fact that she/he is still calling is clear evidence that he or she isn’t happy that he or she took the decision of leaving.
3. Has A Very Close Relationship With Your Mom
Situations like this are very much possible especially if your mom had grown to like your partner.
Many mothers are very good at aligning with their children’s partner and the possibility of maintaining communication with them even after they had broken up with their children is very much possible.
4. She Wants To Get Back
Another reason your ex is still contacting your mom during no contact could be a result of them wanting to come back. They are finding it difficult to come to you directly, hence, meeting/calling your mom becomes the best option.
The fear of being rejected again can make them find it difficult to contact you directly. So to be on the safe side, they believe talking to you through your mom will help in solving things since it is believed that many mothers have their ways to their children’s hearts.
What Should You Do In Cases Like This
In situations like this, if you are not okay with their constant contact with your mom or any member of your family, it will make sense if you find out first what they want or why they are always calling.
Hearing from your mom first about why your ex keeps contacting her will help you in your next line of action.
If maybe the reasons your mom gave does not fall in line with what you might presume important, then you go ahead and inform her to cut the contact with your ex.
A constant contact with your ex goes a long way at keeping an open wound fresh. So you have to make your mom understand why she has to stop communicating with your ex.
Remember, if the reasons your ex is always calling your mom is genuine, don’t stop them from maintaining communication but where it does not fall in line with what you’d tag necessary, then you can implore your mother to cut off the relationship with your ex.